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Visiting tatay’s grave

When we visit the Philippines, we always visit a few cemeteries to pay our respect to family members who have passed. The most important grave, to us, is the grave of my father-in-law, tatay (tatay means father, in Filipino), which we visited at the end of January.

Paying respect to a deceased person in the Philippines means lighting a few candles. And it’s perfectly okay over there to climb over or sit on graves during your visit (things that are not done here in the Netherlands), so on the photos you see kids (a few of tatay’s grandchildren) squatting on the grave, trying to light a candle.

The grave is less than five years old, but seems much older – this is caused by the tyfoon Haiyan which devastated the area just over a year ago.

Inscription on tomb of Haneper Duroy (1939-2010)

Haneper Duroy (1939-2010)

At the tomb of Haneper Duroy (1939-2010)

Visiting the grave of tatay

At the tomb of Haneper Duroy (1939-2010)

Trying to light a few candles

At the tomb of Haneper Duroy (1939-2010)

Lighting the candles

Candles at the tomb of Haneper Duroy (1939-2010)

The candles are burning

1 Comment

  1. Leo Tacke

    Hallo Henk,
    Leuke website!
    Ik ben Leo Tacke uit Eindhoven. Ben reeds 25+ jaren weg uit Nederland en via mijn werk een wereldburger geweest. Woon nu zo’n 13 jaren in de Visayas (Cebu). Ben gehuwd met een Filipina.
    Ben af en toe fanatiek bezig met mijn stamboom en sinds enkele weken met een nieuwe “boom” van mijn vrouw, na het overlijden van tatay.
    Via het zoeken naar resources kwam ik op jouw site terrecht.
    Ik heb geen specifieke vragen maar wilde gewoon contact leggen.
    Met vriendelijke groet,
    Leo Tacke

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